Learning the Ropes: A Basic Guide to Safe and Fun S/M Lovemaking by Race Bannon

Learning the Ropes: A Basic Guide to Safe and Fun S/M Lovemaking
By Race Bannon
Daedalus Publishing Company

Race Bannon provides an honest and straightforward basic guide to S/M. He explodes prevalent myths about S/M and replaces them with a playground of erotic fantasy and an emphasis on consensuality. The fantasy visualization exercises and the examples of scenes and negotiation provide rich fodder for crafting new experiences, and regardless of your gender, orientation, or skill level, you’ll find that the advice sprinkled throughout the book is useful.

Consensual Sadomasochism: How to Talk about It and How do Do It Safely, by Sybil Holiday and William A. Henkin Consensual Sadomasochism : How to Talk About It and How to Do It Safely
By William A. Henkin and Sybil Holiday
Daedalus Publishing Company

Easy to read, easy to follow, and easy to understand.  This book defines and demystifies the unique language of consensual sadomasochism, examines the psychological power of erotic dominance and submission and explains how SM can be an activity of intense intimacy and sophisticated erotic theater, as well as simple sexual pleasure. Combining their extensive professional credentials with deep personal experience, the result is an original introduction to a widely misunderstood realm of human sexuality.

Sexual Magic, the SM Photographs, by Michael RosenSexual Magic: The SM Photographs
By Michael Rosen
Shaynew Press

Photographer Michael Rosen presents a unique view into the world of sadomasochism. The photographs are alive.  Faces reveal the movement of emotion: pain, joy, concentration, intense sexual arousal. Besides the raw beauty of the images, what makes this book especially valuable is the first-person thoughts of its subjects. We learn from the pictures and the players’ words what S/M is really about for each individual.

The New Topping Book
By Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy
Greenery Press

Tens of thousands learned the emotional and ethical skills of BDSM topping from the first ‘Topping Book.’ Now the authors tackle some of the issues that have come up for tops in the last six years: on-line domination, the challenges and rewards of ‘lifestyle’ relationships, ensuring our own and our partners’ safety, and more.


The New Topping Book by Dossie Easton and Janet W. HardyThe New Bottoming Book
By Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy
Greenery Press

The “New Bottoming Book” has been completely revised and updated, providing insights and ideas for a new millennium about how to be a successful, popular bottom! Includes sections on dominance/submission play, bridging the gap from on-line to real-time relationships, the four stages of a scene, and more. Full of hot illustrations, many moving and funny anecdotes, and an extra-large helping of the realistic wisdom for which these authors are known.

Different Loving: The World of Sexual Dominance and Submission by William Brame, Gloria Brame and Jon JacobsDifferent Loving
By William Brame, Gloria Brame and Jon Jacobs
Villiard Press

This book is excellent for those who are new to kink and BDSM and are looking for an overview. A breakthrough in sexual literature, this work is a complete, comprehensive user-friendly guide to and tour through the world of alternative sexual lifestyles. While the topics are exotic and erotic, the authors handle each one in a sensitive, thorough, analytical, and fascinating way and manage to explain a secret world to those who might wish to visit.


The Ethical Slut: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships & Other Adventures, by Dossie Easton and Janet W. HardyThe Ethical Slut
By Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy
Celestial Arts

This groundbreaking guide navigates the infinite possibilities that open relationships can offer.   In The Ethical Slut: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships & Other Adventures, Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy dispel myths and cover all the skills necessary to maintain a successful and responsible polyamorous lifestyle.  From self-reflection and honest communication to practicing safe sex and raising a family, learn how to discuss and honor boundaries, resolve conflicts, and to define relationships on your own terms.

Additional Resources

Daedalus Publishing
Prints quality non-fiction about leather, SM, fetish, and sexuality.

Michael Rosen
In addition to “Sexual Magic,” Michael Rosen provides high quality books featuring his erotic fine art photographs depicting individuals and couples of all genders and persuasions.

Eros Comix
A large independent hot adult comix site with BD/SM links.