Erotic Switching Intensive for Private Players

New Course from Cléo Dubois and Eve Minax: Erotic Switching Intensive for Private Players has been postponed to 2020!  Sign up for Cléo’s Newsletter for up to date information!  

Really curious about finding authenticity in your BDSM Play?  Maybe it’s time to try a new position! Join Cléo Dubois and Eve Minax for the First and Only Erotic Switching Intensive for private players ever!  We will welcome up to 16 people to join us for 2 days of sharing hands-on the physical skills, psychology, and eroticism on both sides of the whip! Or rope!  

Who this course is for:

Been Topping and want to bottom?  Always bottomed but want to take charge for a change? This is your opportunity to challenge yourself and see what new archetypal energies come into play!

No need to self identify as gender queer or switch, just bring an open mind and desire to learn and grow!

Questions?

Visit our FAQ page. Or email Eve@EveMinax.com or call Minax at 415 994 2887!

Ready to Apply?

This first ever Erotic Switching Intensive will be held July 13-14 at the SF Citadel. Meet & Greet Friday, July 12 at a private SOMA location. Click here to apply!

Erotic Dominance Intensive Weekend for Women: Tops & Switches

“…Everything from the cadence of the course, the spirituality of the presentation, and the content of the instruction; to the exquisite power and expert guidance of the instructors; the warm willingness and eager encouragement of the wonderful volunteers; to the camaraderie and kinship of my fellow students, whisked me from the precipice of indecision and inaction and firmly grounded me in the dominant, centered place that I find myself today.  The intensive was a life-changing experience for me.  I emerge transformed.”
–SaraMara aka Mistress Rook” CA 2014

Ignite the Passion of Your Radical Sexuality!

There’s no better time for women to take control and enrich our relationships than right now!  Starting at the Meet & Greet in SOMA Friday evening, you’ll discover who you are in play and explore the many ways to embody that sensual energy!  Limited to 8 students, this is all about YOU, your presence and passion.

Consent. Connection. Control. Surrender. Intimacy!  Attend with your partner, or alone and work with my Academy’s volunteer bottoms for practice. Each Erotic Dominance Intensive weekend concludes with a private guided play party for participants and their partners Sunday @SFCitadel.

Discover new ways to raise that delicious sexual energy that empowers us and our relationships. During this Intensive, you not only will learn new skills and hone those you have, you will explore the psychology, physicality, sexuality and spirituality of BDSM.  Our 3-to-1 student/staff ratio ensures that you get lots of one-on-one attention.

What The Tuition Covers?

The $1050 single, $1500 couple, tuition fee covers:

  • Friday evening “Meet and Greet” at a private SOMA location
  • Group and one-on-one instruction
  • Experienced volunteer bottoms
  • Comprehensive workbook
  • Private guided play party (play with a partner or volunteer bottom)

Intensive Details

Please click here to learn more about this intensive.

Questions?

Please visit our FAQ page.

Ready to Apply?

There are no players intensives scheduled for 2019. Sign up for my newsletter to be first to hear about our next Erotic Dominance Intensive for Women players.  Private mentoring is available at www.cleodubois.com

Meet Me in Denver for Thunder in the Mountains 20th Anniversary!

 

Rituals of Authentic Power Play

It’s not what we do but how we do it that makes sparks fly! Feel your desire. Tune into your own intuition – who occupies your inner landscape? Who do you embody and how do you do that? Seductive, Predatorial, Sadistic? And who are you playing with? Slave, Pet, or Trickster?Think it doesn’t matter? How we connect our heat heart and spirit in BDSM play fuels our erotic energies to make our scenes soar! In this class, we’ll venture down the hall of mirrors; in our reflections are the many ways to be! Come ready for a little participation, a fiery demo and a bit of ritual!Step into a role your way and deepen your play relationships with presence and passion!Sex magicians, seducers, queens, kings, princesses, knights, sadists, sexy sluts, pain sluts, pets and more…all welcome!

Panel Discussion – Pioneers, Settlers and Descendants

Join community Elders Skip Chasey, Cleo Dubois, Mark Frazier, Lolita Wolf and Ms Cynthia, as we share our thoughts and feelings about our journey, why we come out long ago in BDSM, and where the larger community is heading.The times, they are a-changing. Again. We owe it to ourselves to look ahead with eyes wide open.

BDSM is my lifelong passion. A Dominant Woman who also enjoys bottoming, a community player and ritualist, I learned that consensual BDSM is a valid path to self-discovery, intimacy and sexual healing.

Out into SM in the early 80s, Leather Conferences and groups such as LIL, NLA, Outcasts, Janus, Exiles, and Thunder In The Mountains gave me a voice as an ethical kink presenter. In 1995 I founded the Academy of S/M Arts to pass on what I had experienced with such mentors as Cynthia Slater, Joseph Bean, Mark Thompson, and my life partner, Fakir.

My 2000 award-winning docufilm “The Pain Game,” noted for its authenticity in embodying the spirit of connected SM play has become a classic. Published in many non-fiction lifestyle books, I now blog at www.cleodubois.wordpress.com … In 2008 I became part of the Living Leather Heritage of the SWLC. In 2014 was inducted into the Society of Janus’ Hall of Fame. I received along with Race bannon the key to the Folsom Street Fair along with Race Bannon in 2015. For the last 15 years I have offered Erotic Dominance Intensives weekends for Tops and those who switch in San Francisco at the SF Citadel.

And I am honored and happy to return to Thunder for its 20th year! Learn more about me at www.cleodubois.com and on www.sm-arts.com Thank you!

Surrender 2016 – Rituals for Authentic Power Play…

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We will circle together with the intention to connect our heat heart and spirit in our BDSM.  Venture outside your stereotypical roles of D/s with me to identify who occupies your inner landscape!  Who are you…and who are you playing with? It’s not what you do, it’s how you do it!  

And why.

It’s not what we do but how we do it that makes sparks fly!  Feel your desire.  Tune into your own intuition and delve deeper into more intensely intimate relationships. Stroll down the hall of mirrors; in your reflections are the many ways to be!  Step into a role your way.  I’ll show you!  Come ready for a little participation too, followed by a fiery demo leading to ritual.

Sex magicians, seducers, queens, kings, princesses, knights, sadists, sexy sluts, pain sluts, pets and more…all welcome!

Join me at 2:30pm, Saturday, November 12 at Dark Odyssey in San Francisco – Surrender 2016 to register.

Kink in the Country!

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I will be one of the presenters at Kink in the Country at the second year of Boundless!  Please join me in community for a weekend of relaxation and play September 30-October 2,

Check out the entire line up in the full Boundless 2016 Agenda and get tickets at http://www.boundlessevents.org/classes-workshops-events-20…/

They are extending a special discount for my friends.  Get 10% off tickets when using the code “CleoFriends”   

Have questions or want to connect with other attendees? Check out the Boundless Fetlife Group.
Boundless 2016 will be held at Saratoga Springs the weekend after Folsom Street Fair  http://bit.ly/2af8m2I

The Ritual of Fantasy Play @Kink.Com

The Ritual of Fantasy Play

Want to make your scenes soar?

Does your energy fit your play persona? Who are you in scene? Who are you playing with? And why? Tune into your archetypes and discover deeper and more intensely intimate connections.

Parity, desire, intuition, trust… It’s not just what we do, it’s how we do it and why we do it!

Sex magicians, seducers, queens, kings, princesses, knights, sadists, sexy sluts, pain sluts, pets and more…all welcome!

Step into a role that is really YOU.

Come ready for a little participation and a very hot demo followed by a Q & A!

Click here for tickets!

 

see u next yr jok portrait few days agoAbout the presenter:

Creator of the Academy of SM Arts, Cleo Dubois is a seasoned BDSM lifestyle educator, initiatrix and consummate ritualist. She’s made two educational docu-films and has contributed to countless on line sites and BDSM books. She offers initiations, private play coaching for couples and newcomers to kink. See www.cleodubois.com and www.sm-arts.com. Erotic Dominance Intensives. Her blog is www.cleodubois.wordpress.com

 

Love to have you join me at The Armory Thursday, June 9, 2016.  We’ll start at 7pm!  Cléo…

 

Please note: Armory Studios is not able to accommodate refunding or rescheduling of any workshops.

Have questions about The Ritual of Fantasy Play presented by Cleo Dubois?Contact Kink.com Tours

The Ritual of Play with Dr. Martha Tara Lee

martha for may newsRecently, I did two podcasts on Skype, quite different from each other!

The Ritual of Play with Dr.Martha Tara Lee, young and daring sex educator broadcasting on OMRadio from Singapore, was fun! (Her OMRadio is not to be confused with the OM practice of the One Taste folks for whom I love to create rituals.)  

With Dr. Lee of Eros Evolution, I focused on newccomers to erotic power exchange and those seeking the link between sex and spirit. I shared a little history, some clarification of just what BDSM is and a lot of simple skills for people to try.  

Click here to listen: http://omtimes.com/iom/2016/04/ritual-play-cleo-dubois/

Heat, Heart & Spirit: My Interview with Dr. Gloria Brame

Heat, Heart & Spirit: My Interview with Dr. Gloria Brame

My brave and magical friend, Cleo Dubois, asked if I’d be interested in talking to her about her Erotic Intensive Seminars, a radical educational initiative that she founded with another Leather legend, Sybil Holiday, over 15 years ago, to provide safe hands-on experiences, mentoring, kinship and support for deep explorations of the intersections between pain, spirit, energy, and BDSM.

I was VERY interested.  I’ve been documenting her life-story for over 2 decades,  first in the original volume of Different Loving and now in Different Loving Too, and hope one day she will write the complete story down in a memoir.  Wow, what a life of change and transformation she has lived!  Learning about the intensives, which I’ve never had the honor of attending, filled me in on another side of this extraordinary woman.

CLEO DUBOIS bio (via Different Loving Too)

BDSM mentor, educator, founder of the “Cléo Dubois Academy of SM Arts” and one of the most respected voices in the SM community on the intersections between dominance and spiritual energy.

 

GB: Your Erotic Intensive are legendary.  Can you tell me what inspired you to create them in the first place?

CD:  In the mid-eighties, I was invited to present at Living in Leather and the National Leather Association.  In the nineties, I  was a sought after speaker  at BDSM conferences as well as my local community venues, like Janus, Exiles, Differences, Odyssey, and Good Vibrations.  I realized that I wanted  to  offer more than 2 hour classes.  I wanted  to share my passion for what I call consensual connected erotic power exchanges with larger audiences too. I visualized a documentary film.   With the help of a talented camera crew  of kinksters, and two marvelous  hot subs I knew, it became a reality.  My film, The Pain Game screened  at the Frameline, San Francisco  LGBT film festival in 2001, in NYC’s first SM Film Festival  and many other venues in  the USA and abroad.  It even made it to  Paris, my home town.  I was blessed.

The positive responses to the film pushed me to be even more creative.  I next organized  an immersion weekend workshop, focusing on how to naturally connect heat, heart and spirit in play. I  approached my long time dear  friend Sybil Holiday ( co-author with Dr. William Henkin of Consensual Sadomasochism ) to help me  create that first Intensive workshop.

We developed a workbook and a curriculum.  Sybil and I were good  teaching partners. Our interests and skills were complementary and we were serious!  We accepted six students.  Eve Minax came from Chicago to take the course.  It was a great start!

Unfortunately, that was the last course Sybil taught due to personal health issues.   Eve Minax, who had been assisting us at every workshop over the years, was invited to fill in for Sybil.  Sybil  used to say, “Eve Minax is our brainchild.” Sure enough, she proved herself to be  a great collaborator.

 

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Eve Minax (left), Cleo Dubois (right)

 

By 2004 we were offering  the first  Erotic Dominance intensives for Men.  That first morning,  when I arrived at the Citadel  the venue for our class,  the men were already there in a circle holding hands and getting acquainted.  I loved that!

GB:  Tell me a little about your students.  Are they pre-identified kinky people or spiritual travelers or both?  What do you think they seek from the experience?

CD:  We tend  to attract people who are seeking connection and intimacy in their kinky relationships. They are people who see the link  between sex and spirit.   They sense  that healing and empowerment can be found and cultivated in  erotic play.   Our  students do not only seek safe solid play skills, they also seek  confidence and acceptance of their own erotic turn ons.  That certainly has been my story!  I teach what I have learned.  With negotiation, trust, and informed consent in the rituals we play, I  have found a deeply loving  chosen family.

We offer  6 Intensives a year.  There are two for women who want to become professional Dominas,  two for Dominant Women and Women who switch, and two for Dominant Men and Men who Switch.  Many of us players find fulfillment on “both sides of the whip”!

Until a year ago we only enrolled Dominants and invited their partners to the meet and greet at the start of the course and the play party at the end.   Last year we decided to expand it to both partners.  It is interesting to note that student Tops prefer to play with and learn from our amazing volunteer bottoms  instead of their own partners.

We are truly blessed to have Community players who contribute their time, bottoming skills, and intelligent honest feedback to help guide our student Tops.   We could not teach our hands-on  courses without them.  Their honest sexiness and integrity delights not only me but all those who benefit from their service.

 

GB:  You will be conducting your upcoming  Men’s intensive on May 14-15, 2016 in partnership with SM educator, Eve Minax.  Can you explain what each of you bring, as teachers, to the sessions?  

CD:  Eve and I complement each other wonderfully.  Sybil  was right:   Eve quickly evolved into  an excellent teaching partner. She understands the importance of breath and clear focus. She  has practice in Tantra, enjoys a wide variety of BDSM play,  and remains the kinkiest woman I have ever known. Super smart too.

 

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We call our course an Intensive because it it truly is encompassing. With the help of the workbook we give our students,  we keep it about being in the moment , with lots of hand-on and feedback.  We love to spark lively conversations and safely take people to their limits.

We take  a maximum of 8 students at a time.  We also have an equal number of volunteers as students who attend unpartnered.  We encourage the students to play with different volunteers  to expand their repertoire.  There are so many nuances in our non-vanilla eroticism!

 

GB: You have pioneered new pathways in radical sex for decades.  Can you speak to your evolution as a ritualist?  What drives Cleo to continually push to new psychospiritual heights?

CD:  My interest in ritual started with my own  initiations, first into BDSM and then into the link between  ritual and BDSM.  In the mid-80s to mid 90s, almost a whole generation of Leathermen, including many of my dear friends,  died of  AIDS.   My community then  centered around Janus. I attended all the classes and parties, official and private.

Fakir was a respected presenter there.    (ed. — Read about Cleo’s and Fakir’s personal journey over the past 23+ years in Different Loving Too).  His lectures and demos fascinated me.  One day, I asked him if he would initiate me in a body ritual — my  intent  was to help relieve my overwhelming grief at my friends’ deaths.  I was looking for  some healing during this darkest time.

We designed a  ceremony together in the country. He gave me many temporary piercings.

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I  sobbed and danced  hard with the balls hooked to my skin that day.  It was powerful work.

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Little by little, I cultivated an ability to tune in and conduct  rituals for groups of adults seeking empowerment  thru the timeless practices of body rituals celebrated in non Judeo-Christian cultures. I weave the threads of different rites and traditions into a practice which emphasizes that the body is a gateway to spirit.   Please note this is a spiritual practice not a religious one.   I now have the honor to bring some of that work to non kink identified folks during workshops I sometimes  lead for One Taste.

GB:  In addition to group teaching, you also do individual work.   What kind of people seek you out for private one-on-one and couples work

CD:  As the weight of shame and secrecy  is finally lifting in urban culture, through all the  diligent work of  so many leather folks,  including you Gloria, more adults are willing now to look at the desires, fantasies and activities they were programmed to think of as taboo.

A quick list of my  clients includes people in new relationships who are ready to come out to their partners  and wish to be accepted,  people who have met obstacles along their kinky road or have been shut down by partners and “want to do it right this time,” long-time married people who want to rekindle their eroticism, and sometimes just  individuals in search of private rituals for self-empowerment or letting go.

Recently a woman who had just  recently  her father trusted me to do a flogging and  piercing/ ritual with her.  It reminded me of my  ball dance 30 years ago with Fakir . It was an honor.

 

GGB:  What do you consider some of your greatest strengths as a teacher and leader?

CD:  I  am a good guide.   I teach communication skills, give  support  in coming out, help my clients dive into  their desires for dominance or surrender.   I know how to share the play skills 30 + years in the Scene gave me.  I love to create ritualized play that involves intense sensations –including flogging, play piercing or sensory deprivation/overload.  These intentional explorations give  all of us  profound insights about our shared humanity.

I value  their  “Aha!” moments when, in the middle of guided play, the Top realizes that s/he is enjoying themselves and that BDSM is not violence, not sick, but rather comes out of love.

 

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It is a true honor to  be trusted to guide others  through these realms.  I help them find their limits, face their fears, and enjoy the kinky dimensions of their sexuality.   I can’t tell you how many times couples have arrived at my door, all nervous and unsure only to leave, three hours later, beaming and asking for hugs.

Find out how to register for the Erotic Intensives or to arrange private consultations with Cleo:

www.sm-arts.com  for information about the Intensives, plus articles and interviews

www.cleodubois.com for consultatons in office or via skype, and private explorations in her lovely little dungeon/temple

www.cleodubois.wordpress.com for Cleo’s blog  “True stories of my 30 years in the scene

Kinky 101 @CSC Is Cancelled!

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Due to unforeseen circumstances, Kinky 101 is cancelled for Saturday August 1 at the Center for Sex and Culture!  

50 Shades has you intrigued, admit it.  Want to play?

Come to the Center for Sex and Culture Saturday, August 1 at 2pm and join Cléo Dubois and Eve Minax.  Whether what fuels your turn-on is being tied up and spanked by your lover in the sexiest of ways, or tying your partner down and ravishing them with different sensations, embracing a role you fantasized about, these lifestyle players will show you how!

Watch hot demos, improvised on the spot!  Participate as Cléo and Eve invite you to expose your hot kinky desires so YOU can start to play! You’ll learn how to create the safe, sane and consensual erotic powerplay that will guide you on the road to greater self-knowledge, hotter connections and deeper intimacy.  Share with your partner or meet one there for hands-on exercises.

All Adults welcome!

The Center for Sex and Culture is located in the heart of the Mission at 1349 Mission Street in San Francisco.

Doors open at 1:30pm.  Kinky 101 plays from 2-6pm!

Tickets: Advanced Purchase $40.00 single, $70.00 for two, available at: http://www.brownpapertickets.com/event/1856608

Tickets at the door: $50 single, $90 for two!

Check Cléo and Eve out at www.cleodubois.com and www.eveminax.com

 

 

50 Shades of Real BDSM Play @SFCitadel!

Cleo32print_New_250 Shades of Real BDSM Play! Presented by Cleo Dubois

Curious, confused, excited, ready to explore? Tuesday, April 28th, join me at the SF Citadel for answers to your questions and start to play!

In our fantasies lay the many shades of real BDSM that fuel our desires, whether for intense sensation, gender or age play, bondage, sexy embarrassment, on either sides of the power dynamic – Top, bottom or Switch. With open and clear communication, we can embody our dark erotic energies in ways that excite, satisfy, empower and even heal us.

I’ll bring toys, so expect a bit of participation, if you consent, of course. And a hot demo or two!

Class from 8-10pm, doors open at 7:30pm

Cost: $20 at the door, $15 in advance using PurplePass: www.purplepass.com/sfc04282015

About the presenter:

Tune in by joining Cleo Dubois where she holds her Erotic Dominance Intensive Weekends, the SF Citadel for this special two hour class geared towards Newbies!

Creator of the Academy of SM Arts, Cleo Dubois is a seasoned passionate BDSM lifestyle educator and consummate ritualist. She’s made two educational docu-films and has contributed to countless on line sites and BDSM books. Initiations, private coaching for couples and newcomers to the scene and guided play/mentoring, please visit www.cleodubois.com Details about the Erotic Dominance Intensives, evening classes, and other workshops can be found on www.sm-arts.com