Kinkfest 2017 Including a Special Event with Fakir!

 

Cleo Dubois

Want to make your scenes soar? Want to bring more passion to your play, topping or bottoming?

Does your energy fit your play persona? Just who are you in scene? And who are you playing with? And why? Tune into your archetypes and discover deeper and more intensely intimate connections.

Parity, desire, intuition, trust and skills It’s not just what we do, it’s how we do it and why we do it.

Sex magicians, seducers, queens, kings, princesses, knights, sadists, sexy sluts, pain sluts, pets and more…all welcome!  Step into a role that is really You.

JoinCome ready for a little participation and a very hot demo followed by a Q & A!

Get details and register to join us here.

SPIRIT+FLESH: Workshop & Ritual Hook Pull 

Since the dawn of mankind, intense physical sensation has been used in rituals to induce “ecstatic states”. In these states, boundaries are expanded, consciousness is shifted, healing and personal transformations can occur. In this Spirit+Flesh workshop/ritual Fakir and Cleo take you on an exotic journey through the body rites of other cultures in a ritual that has been adapted to the needs and tastes of BDSM and fetish players. The memorable Spirit+Flesh experience includes: background information, preparatory exercises, shamanic piercing with hooks and a prolonged “energy pull”, a mini Sun Dance that can bring you a feeling of euphoria and transcendence. The ecstatic dance is propelled by dynamic live Taiko Master drumming. Fakir & Cleo have facilitated this workshop and ritual for many years, for BDSM players and kinksters worldwide — in the USA, Canada, England, Italy and elsewhere. Join this community event and experience the “high” for yourself.

Participation in the Dance is limited but witnesses are welcome to support the energy. Participants will be required to register in advance and sign a piercing release. All piercing will be done to the strict standards of Fakir Intensives piercing school and the Association of Professional Piercers (APP).
More details at: http://www.fakir.org/spiritflesh/index.html

 

In Leather Pride, A Visual Journey in Kink


Cleo Fakir LondonThe SF Citadel is pleased to invite you to a special evening with Cléo Dubois and Fakir. Their multi-media presentation of personal and professional photographs from the first kink explorations in BDSM and Piercing to its mainstreaming in today’s culture! They have fulfilled Patrick Califia’s first commandment of a revolutionary:surviving to tell the tale!

Join us September 16 for a born to be wild ride through their collection of SF kink/fetish community images… SOJ, early pride, folsom, mentors, March on Washington, our local heroes who paved our leather way and the true stories that go with them! To top the evening Fakir and Cleo will be happy to answer your questions about their 30 years in the leather and bodymod communities.

Fakir is a body piercer and shaman known worldwide for his personal exploration of body rituals, BDSM and instruction in the art, skills and magic of body piercing, branding and corsetry. He is director of Fakir Intensives, he calls Piercing School going on now for 23 years

Leather Marshall for SF Pride 2008, Cléo Dubois is a BDSM Educator, ritualist, creator of the Academy of S/M Arts, and leather blogger. She offers Erotic Dominance Intensive weekends for Men and Women, as well as private guided play for couples.

Newbies, curious, seasoned players, community friends, come to this memorable powerpoint presentation and open discussion to reminisce, discover and share. We are still making history!

Doors open at 7:30pm, class from 8-10pm
Cost: $20 at the door, $15 in advance using PurplePasshttps://www.purplepass.com/sfc09162014 

For more information about our presenters, visit www.cleodubois.com, www.sm-arts.com, www.fakir.org  

Fakir and Cleo offered this on going storytelling presentation once before at Center for Sex and Culture in 2008. Times flies!

Kiss of Leather, Tongues of Fire: the Richer Territories of BDSM

Kiss of Leather, Tongues of Fire: the Richer Territories of BDSM

In my first video, “The Pain Game” the connection between Creed (my beautiful masochist) and me allowed both of us to fly in shamanic S/M play.

This article is excerpted from a longer interview that was originally published on Alt.com in 2004.  In it, I  address some of those richer, darker and more transcendent territories to which our BDSM journeys can us. Topics include the dance of flogging, achieving good bondage play, what to do when a scene stops working, how to safely push personal boundaries, claiming your power, and the role of ritual and spiritual power in BDSM.


 

AFF: People just beginning their explorations of BDSM may not be aware of the many flavors it can have — for example, erotic, spiritual, BDSM for personal growth, BDSM as art, and so forth. How do all these aspects of BDSM fit into your own approach to play?

DUBOIS: For me, BDSM is about hot erotic explorations, personal growth, healing, connecting with others, and spirituality. We need big pleasure that connects us to ourselves and to the Divine. That pleasure (or should I call it pain/pleasure/surrender) I have found in the erotic rituals we call S/M. Doing a scene with trust and mutual respect can not only increase intimacy with our partner(s).  It also opens the door to our inner spaces and allows our spirits to soar.

AFF: What are some things that people may not be aware of when it comes to learning one’s own or a partner’s boundaries?

DUBOIS: A good thing to keep in mind is to go slowly.  People are not aware that boundaries can come up very unexpectedly and be triggered by multiple missteps: the wrong tone of voice, wrapping the whip and not being aware of it, bad timing on the part of the Dominant, fear of hurting your partner, fear of not pleasing your partner and many more. It is always important to keep in mind that it is the submissive who enables the power exchange. A satisfying, sexy balance needs to be found to make it work for both partners.

AFF: Is it possible that a sub goes along with something, not really aware of their personal boundaries, only to have after-shocks?

DUBOIS: Of course it’s possible. Any scene could go wrong or need to be cut short. We are playing with sex and power. Even a Top can hit one of His/Her limits and push themselves beyond it, only to regret it later. Play involving embarrassment and slapping, for instance, can bring up bad memories and by surprise, take the players out of the erotic realm.

With open and honest communication, people can face difficult repercussions with a loving and caring attitude. Guilt and resentment, that’s what gets in the way of healing, and keeps us from being as adventurous as we might otherwise want to be. Leave your partner wanting more rather than taking them to an edge too fast. Again go slowly.

AFF: Can you keep your play purely recreational so that issues like these do not come up?

DUBOIS: If by “purely recreational” you mean only light and fun play, then you must try to negotiate only light and fun things to do and keep your play to only those activities. A couple of examples are a simple role reversal scene where the woman is the leader in sex play and says, “Do this; now, do that,” and the man asks, “Please tie me up, Honey and do sexy things to me.”

These “purely recreational” scenes can awaken deeper, hotter desires in both participants. And then you cross over into the world of ritual intensity and real power exchange where buttons can easily get pushed. This is not “kindergarten” sex. This is sophisticated sex/power play.

The secret of successful kinky play is open and honest communication. It is difficult for many of us to communicate our erotic needs. If issues should arise between two consenting partners, do not blame the other for the scene not working. Stop and take a break. It is extremely important to just listen to each other rather than pointing the finger for either pushing too hard, being insensitive, not reading your body language right, not playing the game right, etc. After all, we’re not mind readers. Taking risks is part of play.

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