Erotic Switching Intensive for Private Players

New Course from Cléo Dubois and Eve Minax: Erotic Switching Intensive for Private Players has been postponed to 2020!  Sign up for Cléo’s Newsletter for up to date information!  

Really curious about finding authenticity in your BDSM Play?  Maybe it’s time to try a new position! Join Cléo Dubois and Eve Minax for the First and Only Erotic Switching Intensive for private players ever!  We will welcome up to 16 people to join us for 2 days of sharing hands-on the physical skills, psychology, and eroticism on both sides of the whip! Or rope!  

Who this course is for:

Been Topping and want to bottom?  Always bottomed but want to take charge for a change? This is your opportunity to challenge yourself and see what new archetypal energies come into play!

No need to self identify as gender queer or switch, just bring an open mind and desire to learn and grow!


Visit our FAQ page. Or email or call Minax at 415 994 2887!

Ready to Apply?

This first ever Erotic Switching Intensive will be held July 13-14 at the SF Citadel. Meet & Greet Friday, July 12 at a private SOMA location. Click here to apply!

Erotic Dominance Intensive Weekend for Women: Tops & Switches

“…Everything from the cadence of the course, the spirituality of the presentation, and the content of the instruction; to the exquisite power and expert guidance of the instructors; the warm willingness and eager encouragement of the wonderful volunteers; to the camaraderie and kinship of my fellow students, whisked me from the precipice of indecision and inaction and firmly grounded me in the dominant, centered place that I find myself today.  The intensive was a life-changing experience for me.  I emerge transformed.”
–SaraMara aka Mistress Rook” CA 2014

Ignite the Passion of Your Radical Sexuality!

There’s no better time for women to take control and enrich our relationships than right now!  Starting at the Meet & Greet in SOMA Friday evening, you’ll discover who you are in play and explore the many ways to embody that sensual energy!  Limited to 8 students, this is all about YOU, your presence and passion.

Consent. Connection. Control. Surrender. Intimacy!  Attend with your partner, or alone and work with my Academy’s volunteer bottoms for practice. Each Erotic Dominance Intensive weekend concludes with a private guided play party for participants and their partners Sunday @SFCitadel.

Discover new ways to raise that delicious sexual energy that empowers us and our relationships. During this Intensive, you not only will learn new skills and hone those you have, you will explore the psychology, physicality, sexuality and spirituality of BDSM.  Our 3-to-1 student/staff ratio ensures that you get lots of one-on-one attention.

What The Tuition Covers?

The $1050 single, $1500 couple, tuition fee covers:

  • Friday evening “Meet and Greet” at a private SOMA location
  • Group and one-on-one instruction
  • Experienced volunteer bottoms
  • Comprehensive workbook
  • Private guided play party (play with a partner or volunteer bottom)

Intensive Details

Please click here to learn more about this intensive.


Please visit our FAQ page.

Ready to Apply?

There are no players intensives scheduled for 2019. Sign up for my newsletter to be first to hear about our next Erotic Dominance Intensive for Women players.  Private mentoring is available at

Pure Pleasure Shop: To the Edge and Back! Beyond Cosplay in the Erotic Hall of Mirrors

To the Edge and Back! Beyond Cosplay in the Erotic Hall of Mirrors!

Let’s play Masters and Servants! Or how about a Twisted Teacher or Mad Scientist?  Got an inner Queen, Bad Boy, French maid or Captive…you name it!

Find turn-on and fun in the fantasy that appeals to you. Then, let out your Inner Beast, Sadistic Seductress, Mommy Dearest, or whoever is within. Use your newfound skills and toys enrich your erotic exchanges.

“In my world of BDSM and Kink, roleplay is a scene, and like in any good scene, there is erotic improvisation that gives us permission to toy with power, our own dark and kinky desires with consent and often humor.

Join me and my two versatile switch bottoms, where we’ll take it to the edge and back of erotic role play: the foundation, the fun, the pitfalls, and those great ah-ha moments! It’s not what you do, it’s how, and more often than not, what comes out of it is a shared delight.”

-Cléo Dubois, In kink and leather pride, with heart

Everyone’s welcome!


Cleo Dubois is a BDSM Educator, ritualist and creator of the Academy of S/M Arts. A versatile S/M player, she came out in the San Francisco Leather Scene in the 80s. She made two popular docu-films, “The Pain Game” and “Tie Me Up.”  She offers, with Eve Minax, Erotic Dominance Intensives Weekends focused on connecting heat, heart and spirit in our consensual erotic power play. Helping newcomers embrace their kink, mentoring couples and offering private body rituals are her specialties. She believes in the magic of BDSM!  and

*Walk-in space subject to availability. Advance registration is recommended to guarantee your seat.

Click Here to Register!

Surrender 2016 – Rituals for Authentic Power Play…

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We will circle together with the intention to connect our heat heart and spirit in our BDSM.  Venture outside your stereotypical roles of D/s with me to identify who occupies your inner landscape!  Who are you…and who are you playing with? It’s not what you do, it’s how you do it!  

And why.

It’s not what we do but how we do it that makes sparks fly!  Feel your desire.  Tune into your own intuition and delve deeper into more intensely intimate relationships. Stroll down the hall of mirrors; in your reflections are the many ways to be!  Step into a role your way.  I’ll show you!  Come ready for a little participation too, followed by a fiery demo leading to ritual.

Sex magicians, seducers, queens, kings, princesses, knights, sadists, sexy sluts, pain sluts, pets and more…all welcome!

Join me at 2:30pm, Saturday, November 12 at Dark Odyssey in San Francisco – Surrender 2016 to register.

The Ritual of Fantasy Play @Kink.Com

The Ritual of Fantasy Play

Want to make your scenes soar?

Does your energy fit your play persona? Who are you in scene? Who are you playing with? And why? Tune into your archetypes and discover deeper and more intensely intimate connections.

Parity, desire, intuition, trust… It’s not just what we do, it’s how we do it and why we do it!

Sex magicians, seducers, queens, kings, princesses, knights, sadists, sexy sluts, pain sluts, pets and more…all welcome!

Step into a role that is really YOU.

Come ready for a little participation and a very hot demo followed by a Q & A!

Click here for tickets!


see u next yr jok portrait few days agoAbout the presenter:

Creator of the Academy of SM Arts, Cleo Dubois is a seasoned BDSM lifestyle educator, initiatrix and consummate ritualist. She’s made two educational docu-films and has contributed to countless on line sites and BDSM books. She offers initiations, private play coaching for couples and newcomers to kink. See and Erotic Dominance Intensives. Her blog is


Love to have you join me at The Armory Thursday, June 9, 2016.  We’ll start at 7pm!  Cléo…


Please note: Armory Studios is not able to accommodate refunding or rescheduling of any workshops.

Have questions about The Ritual of Fantasy Play presented by Cleo Dubois?Contact Tours

Kinky 101 @CSC Is Cancelled!

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Due to unforeseen circumstances, Kinky 101 is cancelled for Saturday August 1 at the Center for Sex and Culture!  

50 Shades has you intrigued, admit it.  Want to play?

Come to the Center for Sex and Culture Saturday, August 1 at 2pm and join Cléo Dubois and Eve Minax.  Whether what fuels your turn-on is being tied up and spanked by your lover in the sexiest of ways, or tying your partner down and ravishing them with different sensations, embracing a role you fantasized about, these lifestyle players will show you how!

Watch hot demos, improvised on the spot!  Participate as Cléo and Eve invite you to expose your hot kinky desires so YOU can start to play! You’ll learn how to create the safe, sane and consensual erotic powerplay that will guide you on the road to greater self-knowledge, hotter connections and deeper intimacy.  Share with your partner or meet one there for hands-on exercises.

All Adults welcome!

The Center for Sex and Culture is located in the heart of the Mission at 1349 Mission Street in San Francisco.

Doors open at 1:30pm.  Kinky 101 plays from 2-6pm!

Tickets: Advanced Purchase $40.00 single, $70.00 for two, available at:

Tickets at the door: $50 single, $90 for two!

Check Cléo and Eve out at and



50 Shades of Real BDSM Play @SFCitadel!

Cleo32print_New_250 Shades of Real BDSM Play! Presented by Cleo Dubois

Curious, confused, excited, ready to explore? Tuesday, April 28th, join me at the SF Citadel for answers to your questions and start to play!

In our fantasies lay the many shades of real BDSM that fuel our desires, whether for intense sensation, gender or age play, bondage, sexy embarrassment, on either sides of the power dynamic – Top, bottom or Switch. With open and clear communication, we can embody our dark erotic energies in ways that excite, satisfy, empower and even heal us.

I’ll bring toys, so expect a bit of participation, if you consent, of course. And a hot demo or two!

Class from 8-10pm, doors open at 7:30pm

Cost: $20 at the door, $15 in advance using PurplePass:

About the presenter:

Tune in by joining Cleo Dubois where she holds her Erotic Dominance Intensive Weekends, the SF Citadel for this special two hour class geared towards Newbies!

Creator of the Academy of SM Arts, Cleo Dubois is a seasoned passionate BDSM lifestyle educator and consummate ritualist. She’s made two educational docu-films and has contributed to countless on line sites and BDSM books. Initiations, private coaching for couples and newcomers to the scene and guided play/mentoring, please visit Details about the Erotic Dominance Intensives, evening classes, and other workshops can be found on

Cléo and Tristan Taormino On The Radio!

Cléo and Tristan Taormino On The Radio!

Click here to listen to Cléo’s conversation with Tristan Taormino on!!

Friday, September 13…live on Cleo joined award winning author, speaker, sex educator and filmmaker Tristan Taormino and they explored the world of sexuality from every angle on her radio show Sex Out Loud™ on the Variety Channel of the VoiceAmerica Talk Radio Network. Tristan’s interview with Cléo delves into the history and depth of BDSM play.  Tune in for a fascinating hour on a wide range of topics from the popular to the taboo, including erotic fantasies, compassionate sadism, healing in play and more.  Open your mind and expand your erotic horizons.

A listener wrote Tristan:

Cléo Dubois was hands down one of the most informative interviews I have listened to. Rarely have I ever heard someone speak with so much eloquence and simplicity on such a complex topic. It was fascinating from an historical perspective and incredibly helpful from a personal one too.

Sex Out Loud Radio with Tristan Taormino Tonite at 5PM!

Cleo32One exciting hour with Tristan Taormino and me Friday, September 13 at 5pm PT and 8pm ET! Tune in!

I am so excited to be Tristan’s guest! Call in to talk with us at 866 472 5788  !!!

Join Us!

866 472 5788…5pm Pacific, 8pm Eastern Time

Cléo on SM and Spirituality

Cléo on SM and Spirituality

SM allows us to look in all the dark places in a consensual environment… I find a lot of healing there. ~ Cléo Dubois

The following interview is excerpted from a longer piece titled “SCENEprofiles Interview with Cléo Dubois,” published in a section of Sensuous Sadie’s website that is dedicated to the intersection of the spirit and sado-erotic.

SENSUOUS SADIE: You have been in the lifestyle for twenty years. How has your practice changed over this time?

CLÉO DUBOIS: When I first discovered my sadistic Dominant side, I was very raw. My enthusiasm probably scared a number of submissives. In fact, many years later when I got on the Internet, men wrote me that they never forgot me and told me just that. “You scared me, but now I am ready for your intensity!”

While I am still an intense player, I have also become more nurturing, more intuitive and more understanding of people’s need to be accepted for their fantasies and kinks, regardless of how bizarre they might think they are. I have expanded my boundaries and explored practices that I never thought I would enjoy when I began this journey 20 years ago. I feel I have grown and embraced all the various facets of who I am. Perhaps the most important on-going lesson for me is to come from a place of integrity and compassion. This has helped greatly in my transition from Domina to Kink Educator and Private Coach.

Sadie: Many of the people who visit you want a big or shamanistic experience. How do you go about bringing this aspect of BDSM play into a scene?

Cléo: Well, SM players do not often call it a ‘shamanic experience.’ They simply want a great scene; they want to get out of their head. In a way, when we enter scene space, we can potentially have a spiritual body experience.

Let me give you just one example. My first video, The Pain Game, received much acclaim in the Leather and Queer community because the piercing and clothespins scenes resonated with many kinksters. The connection between Creed (my beautiful masochist) and me allowed both of us to fly in shamanic S/M play. When I pulled a feathered zipper off her back, Kali energy was running through me. I felt the destructive energy that is also loving. I also felt the symbolic removal of her ‘skin’ as a necessary part of growth and transformation.

Sadie: When did you first start exploring the connection between BDSM & spirituality? Was there a particular experience or moment that set you on this path?

The Queen of Swords, Card from "The New Tarot Deck" by Jack Hurley, Rae Hurley and John HorlerCléo: Yes, my first private experience as a fantasy slave girl connected my sexuality and my budding spirituality. The man that initiating me in ritual bottoming was Jay Magus. He was trained in Gestalt work and transpersonal analysis from the famous Esalen Institute. He was very sensitive, kind and sexy. I had met him, his wife and his slave girl at the Society of Janus. I also became friends with both women.

The day of my big scene, he started by ordering me to draw a Tarot card from a desk he had been involved in creating. I picked the Queen of Swords. He placed two of his swords in my hands and had me hold them like the image on the card for as long as I could while looking at myself in the mirror of a dimly lit room. When I finally put the swords down, I was ready to submit to him. My long meditation on the Queen of Swords ended when the pain of holding the swords had become unbearable. I was in a trance then, ready to learn and give up control. He was strict, gentle and practiced service to the Lady; the Goddess Archetype. His Dominance was also part of his spiritual path.

Sadie: What spiritual or BDSM practices help take you there? For example: yoga, meditation, Kundalini, Tantra etc

Cléo: Centering! Being fully present! Breathing! Breathing! Breathing! And guiding my bottom to do the same.

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“Queen of Swords” from The New Tarot Deck by Jack Hurley, Rae Hurley and John Horler, © 2005-2010 Inner Light Society. Posted with permission. To see more cards, go to