Erotic Dominance Intensive Weekend for Men: Tops & Switches

The Erotic Dominance Intensive weekend for Men Tops & Switches

We will announce soon when this Intensive will be held at the SFCitadel.  Private mentoring is available. Visit for details and contact information.

The line between erotic play and abuse is simple: consent.  Clear communication, honesty, trust. The loving Dominant values the informed consent of each play partner.  Eve Minax and I invite Men interested in exploring their erotic dominance to join us for this interactive Intensive.  Attend alone or bring your partner for a connected and an ultra-intimate experience.  

The Erotic Dominance Intensive for Men Tops and Switches starts at the Meet & Greet Friday evening, September 21 with a lively discussion of what it is to be an ethical Dominant.  Held at the SF Citadel, the layered exercises, seminars and hands on training bring out the authentic Dom within. Harness your beast into a loving Dominant.  All Erotic Dominance Intensive weekends end with a private guided play party with Eve and me for students, partners and volunteers Sunday at the SF Citadel! This workshop is limited to eight students.

Make your scenes hot, fun, daring, intense and memorable!

The Tuition of $1050 single, $1250 couple includes the following:

Friday evening “Meet and Greet” at a private SOMA location.

Group and one-on-one instruction.

Comprehensive workbook

Hands-on skills training in bondage, spanking, flogging and more!

Private guided play party with partners and volunteers.


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Ready to Take An Intensive?

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Erotic Dominance Weekend Intensive for Women 45+

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Over 45 and feeling passionate? Want more from your life?

Discover new ways to raise that delicious sexual energy that empowers us and our relationships. During October’s Erotic Dominance Intensive for Women 45+, you not only will learn new skills and hone those you have, you will explore the psychology, physicality, sexuality and spirituality of kinky erotic power play with 50 shades of sensations.

We’ll show you how to take charge, using skills like light bondage, spanking, flogging and erotic games of trust and sensation like collaring rituals, and receive the pleasure you desire.  We’ll give you tools you can use to connect your heat and heart in authentic erotic energy exchange.

Who is this Intensive for?

The Erotic Dominance Intensive for you if you are ready to step into your erotic power fully and embody your kinky dominant fantasies!

Attend with a partner or alone.  Cléo’s Academy of SM Arts will have trusted volunteer bottoms on hand!  LGBT welcome.

Join Cléo Dubois and Eve Minax for an empowering weekend of kinky play; your life will never be the same!

What does this Intensive include?

  • Friday evening “Meet and Greet” at a private SOMA location
  • Group and one-on-one instruction
  • Experienced volunteer bottoms
  • Comprehensive workbook
  • Private guided play party (play with a partner or volunteer bottom)
  • Snacks and beverages

How Much does this Intensive Cost?

$600 alone, $900 with a partner

Have Questions?

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Playful SM with Cléo Dubois

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(When A Little Brattiness Goes a Long Way!)               

I like my play mischievous, funny, sadistic, sweet and hot! Toying around like a cat with its mouse…I invited two provocative bottoms to join me Tuesday, February 11 at the SF Citadel Community Center for Playful SM!

Bring your sweetheart, bratty or not, and see how to ramp up energy in your play by what you say, how you tease, embarrass and seduce.  Encouraging your partner to take more for you, or give you more of what you crave…imagine the fun we will have!

Cléo Dubois is a BDSM Educator, ritualist, and creator of the Academy of S/M Arts.  A versatile player and teacher, Cléo’s innovative classes, programs and Erotic Dominance Weekend Intensives for all genders offer deep insights into the intimate side of erotic relationships.  Check out her website for details.

Visit for private dungeon mentoring for couples and Skype consultations. Cléo believes in the magic of consensual erotic power exchange. You can read about her kind of fun In Kink with Heart weekly at “Real stories of my 30 years in the scene!’

Doors open at 7:30pm, we play at 8!

Leather and Spice: Beginning the Journey

Leather and Spice: Beginning the Journey

By Marianne Messina and Cleo Dubois

In this interview with Marianne Messina, Cléo Dubois talks about how her personal journey into BDSM began, where to find information when you don’t have a mentor, and how BDSM can help people grow in their erotic relationships. A longer version of this article, aimed at newbies and those who are “kink curious” appeared on in August 2004.

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Marianne Messina (MM): Can you briefly talk about your personal journey with BDSM and maybe what you’ve learned about the variety of options in the BDSM world?

CLÉO DUBOIS: I did not always know that I was kinky. In my 20s I loved to pick an argument with my lover, provoking him to get rough with me and then feel so sorry that he would do anything to please me! Well, that sort of manipulation totally disappeared from my life once I discovered my SM, the link that brought my sexuality into focus. I started to integrate all of the aspects of myself: brat, good girl, submissive, sadist, disciplinarian, mentor, control queen, Domina, mentor, slut, nurturer and ritualist.

Cleo Dubois, with friends, from the early days of her journey into BDSMIn the early 80’s, with the encouragement of a kinky boyfriend, I began exploring the SM frontiers in the San Francisco Leather Community.  These fantasy/mind/body explorations were a powerful venue for my erotic fulfillment and self-discovery; they taught me that negotiated sadomasochism is a valid path to self-discovery, healing and intimacy. It didn’t take me long to realize that I loved bottoming [being the one who submits] as well as topping [being the one who dominates], as long as it was consensual and negotiated.

I joined the first local SM education group, The Society of Janus [], attended all meetings and volunteered for everything: spanking, flogging, bondage, play piercing etc. Once I felt that I knew enough to be a safe player, I became a professional Dominant out of my passion for the Scene.

MM: Say someone’s trying something for the first time — bondage, spanking, whatever — and they don’t have the benefit of a mentor, how can they approach it safely?

CLÉO DUBOIS: First look into your fantasies, and follow your intuition. Decide what you are willing to actualize. So, you want to be a little brat and be spanked by “Daddy,” or you, Mr. Businessman, want to be a lipstick lesbian for the evening, tied up and teased by your girlfriend? If you think that the time is right, bring it up in loving conversation with your partner and listen to their response. If someone paints a picture you don’t feel you fit in, say so. You are the only one who can tell if the idea of doing something kinky turns you on or off. Listen to yourself.

Start slow whether you are the top or the bottom. It is a real good idea to leave your partner wanting just a little more, but it can be devastating for both of you, to hurt him/her by pushing yourself or them, whether you are the bottom wanting more or the top wanting more.

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